Everything around you can change as an adult single starting from the early 20's going to any age you can think up but quite prominent in the 30's beyond as well. The reasons are diverse. You move away from your college location. Work calls, you travel to another city. At times the country changes. The social media has taken over for the past 2 decades or more. The older friends message you on the social networks, but does that fill the void of real human contact.

Call it having a friend or a female friend partner as a working man or vice versa. There is nothing like having a friend beside you and talking it out. Holding hands, looking eye to eye, hearts melting into one. Coming back to the real world, and there you are, working the 9 to 5 grind. Hoping to have a drink with your friends after work, but there is no one around.

The desire for the social networks to become the virtual friend makers, is a tendency that has been keeping a lot many of the men and women from making contact with new people. Every now and then, some of college or school known people (not sure if you would always want to call them friends but such is the definition) and you will discuss the yesteryears, thinking about meeting up. This does not mean that you have friends. If you are living such a life, then somewhere you are feeling more lonelier than if you would have controlled the social networks exposure, if not cutting it off completely.

Let's face it, you do require the social network contacts, at times for the family or for easy contact by any one who wants to. Spending time with friends on the weekend or going for a date, is something different altogether. If you find yourself surrounded by such distant online friends, then it is time to make changes to your lifestyle.

Why am I talking about making contacts rather than friends here? When we meet strangers we start with an introduction and then take things forward. Thinking about a person as a friend, when you meet them for the first time or a few, is not the right thing to do. 

To start making contacts, increase your outside presence. Finding new places to hang out is the first thing to do. If you go out for meals, then make it a point to try a new area every time.

Again, if you choose a restaurant, then changing the crowd scene to a pub or a club can make the difference you require. Even if you do not drink, taking a mocktail, sitting with a snack and saying a hello to a group of single women at a nearby table can happen easily. Hit the co-exercise gym. Talk to the woman who is friendly towards you.

There is something about talking to women on a bus or a train, but make sure you have a reason. You may not like to go to the parks, but making a schedule either in morning or evening can give you access to the single women. 

While most of the situations above mention men looking to make friends, but it is true the other way round as well. Adult women can get lonely or without friends as well travelling for work to different parts of the globe. When they get the option, they use the online dating apps to make friends. Example of such a dating app is MeetOutside. There are profiles of men based on lifestyle with video introductions. The option to start a video chat takes you towards the date friend in no time. 

The idea is to use the dating apps as a medium to make friends. Think of them as connection making apparatus rather than a place for the lonely or the losers. Life is there to go out there and make things happen. Dating apps are an example of living such a life. You could either wait or use the online platforms built for people to make friends who move towards various sorts of relationships.